At an intervention this week with a seventeen year young male client, the mother was invested in teaching her husband how his drinking had affected their son. Her codependent “love at all cost” attitude, did nothing to determine this young mans deviant behavior!
This is wrong in so many paradigms. The communication skills my young client possessed were underdeveloped due to his substance abusing behaviors. He has never learned to process his cognitive behaviors in the paradigm of “right or wrong!” He was quick to blame his lack of knowledge on his parents inability to teach him healthy living behaviors.
This “projection” (blame damage!) caused the reaction within the family unit of “conflict” which allowed him to escape culpability for his criminally addictive behaviors! When sobriety was recommended and contracts made, to abstain from chemical use, attend self help meetings and continue therapy, hope was created that improved relationships were possible! It is a process! Be patient! Do the work! Read, The Script ACURE for Addiction page 172 and the AA Big Book page 58, 59 and 60.

ARRESTED AGAIN!
You can’t help someone who doesn’t want help!
YES YOU CAN! Acure for Addiction, pg 80
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